I hated everything about having a c-section and when I asked for answers at the birthing center, my midwife said "Oh, the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck."
I was pregnant with my second a little over a year later. I knew I wanted a VBAC and returned to the birthing center, but was plagued by doubts and annoyed by the midwives' defensiveness when I tried to talk more about why my first pregnancy ended in a c-section. I got tired of this and switched to a homebirth midwife at 24 weeks!
This pregnancy was way different (harder) than my first. I had acute SPD (symphysis pubis dysfunction, a painful pelvis disorder) and I was caring for a very active 2 year old toddler. I felt heavy and uncomfortable but excited to meet the new baby. I did everything possible to get myself in the best birthing shape: walking at least a mile everyday with my little one, 5 visits tho the chiropractor and taking Borage oil, Arnica, prenatal supplements and pregnancy tea as advised by my midwife--raspberry leaf, stinging nettle, chamomile, elderberry and anise (added the anise only for the last 4 weeks).
I went into labour 5 days past my EDD at 11:20 PM and felt bad because I kept waking up my husband, so I stayed on the couch until he woke up in the morning at 6 AM. Contractions were about 8 minutes apart. My husband called the midwife and let her know what was going on. Labored for the whole day before I called my midwife again to tell her the contractions were getting closer together, at about 5 minutes apart. By the time she got to my house, I was in a ton of pain and begging for relief. Not to mention every time I tried to eat anything, I threw it up 5 minutes later. When I was examined, I was 5 cm and completely thinned out. I was not happy--I had been in labor for almost two days! I still couldn't keep anything down, so I felt weak. I started thinking about going to the hospital, but my midwife, doula and husband all reminded me why I was having a home birth and I decided to keep laboring at home at least until the next day even though I was begging for it to be over. My midwife checked me in the morning and I was fully dilated! That really encoraged me mentally even though the baby was still high up.
One of my biggest fears was that the baby would never descend, and it felt like he wasn't because after an hour of pushing, I could still feel him way up in my ribs. My midwife checked his heartbeat and it was right below my c-section scar. He was getting lower! I was amazed and motivated. Soon after, I felt my body pushing. It was so raw and guttural!!!
I felt the same "baby not descending" during my first labor about the baby not descending and my midwives said " Well we can always go to the hospital to check." I can't believe they could've checked with their fingers or a Doppler !
After about an hour and a half of pushing, my water broke--more like exploded--all over my husband.
Baby O was born about two hours later !
It was so amazing to put him on my chest cord still attached and I just stared in awe. We stayed like that for over an hour and then my midwife cleaned and weighed him. 10 lbs 8 ounces!! We were shocked, we thought he would be big but not that big!
I had no tears or anything probably thanks to the borage oil and arnica!
I am so grateful for the VBAC online community. I've gained so much knowledge that led me to this fantastic ending.
My midwife was amazing, I begged her for drugs, to take me to the hospital, to smother me with a pillow, accidentally kicked her in the head while pushing and kept saying "you don't understand how I'm feeling, have some pity." She let me be me sometimes and other times just coached me perfectly through a contraction, or during pushing. I'm so happy I found her. I feel eternally grateful to her.
Things I did during pregnancy:
Saw an amazing midwife
Walked a mile or more almost everyday
Watched and read successful Vbac stories
Took arnica and borage oil
Had a few webster chiropractic and one acupuncture session
What helped during labor:
My midwife reminding me to breathe(blow that baby down) during contractions and not scream
Tens machine helped with pain before 5 CM
Counter pressure on my lower back with a hot rice sock was the only relief after 5CM, even during pushing
My husband probably spent 34 of my 36 hour labour doing counter pressure he was the best birth partner possible
My doula massaged, talked calmly to me and even helped with my toddler.